the next right step ...

When I was active in network marketing I had various leaders telling me that they didn't like the "energy" of our upline's team page that had emerged.  They complained about the negativity in the group (I hope you see the irony here);  they complained about those who were not showing up for training;  they complained about the lack of engagement;  they complained about the leader.  

Now ... I GET it.  It seems as though it's difficult to shift the energy at times (well at least that's what people tell me) particularly when you're not rockin' it in business and you wanna blame something OUTSIDE yourself, for your own failure.  Let's face it, believing that it is US who suck is hard, right?  But here's the thing I tell everyone:  If you don't like where you're at you have three options:

1) stay where you're at and keep bitching about it 

2) stay where you're at but find a way to reframe this in your mind.  

3) grab a set of balls and get the hell out of the situation that you don't like.

That's really all the options that you've got.  Now let's dive deeper into them shall we?

If you're leaning towards choosing #1 stop reading right now, grab a large object and smack yourself with it.  This makes ZERO sense unless your soul purpose in life is to feel crappy, continue failing and to bring everyone around you down with you.  I'm gonna suggest you move onto option #2 here, cause I won't let you choose this one and no one that loves you would let you choose it either.

Given that you're still reading (and you haven't unfriended, unfollowed or blocked me at this point) you've got a choice between #2 and #3.  There's a process here that we need to go through in order to choose between these suckers.  This is what I suggest:

Grab a piece of paper, your journal or a blank document on your computer and start riffing on what is MOST important to you.  So let's give the example of a company that you like but are frustrated with vs the option of moving to another company.  (This happened to me numerous times ... so we can chat using my real life experiences):

I wrote down what was important to me:

- I needed to love the product;  I know companies that tell you that you don't HAVE to ... that all you need to do is share the business opportunity and tell them to just buy the product because it gets you access to the business.   I know people who are successful with this platform, but it's just not my integrity to align myself with a company that sells products I don't love.  Next!

- I needed to work less;  I was burning myself right the fuck out and I knew it.  Companies that promised less time for more money were appealing to me.  However, I also needed to consider that I knew everything about the company that I was with, I knew the products, the people, the company, the training ... and I knew that joining a new company would mean more time, more learning (at first at least)

- I needed more money;  it makes no sense to work your ass off for no cash.  This isn't a volunteer organization it's a BUSINESS.  Would this new company allow me to make me more money?  Maybe.  But not if I didn't love the company or the product

- I needed to be proud of what I was doing and who I was doing this with;  I wanted to work with others with integrity

- (I'm sure there were more things I came up with but at the time that I'm writing this I'm 47 yrs old and to be honest, my memory sucks shit)

After I had identified all that was important to me, I needed to consider which of the two companies were most in alignment with the things that I felt were important.  

By this point in the process, you should be able to see a clear option emerge (I did anyway and so have the clients that I've helped through this process).

If you chose #2, then you're staying where you're at but you're going to need to do a REFRAMING exercise in order to change your mindset about it.  You know that this is where you are meant to be for now, so work on determining what you need to do, to be happy where you are.  Let me clarify that a bit more:  work on determining what you need to CHANGE about your mindset and the way you're showing up each and every day with a CONSCIOUS decision not to slip back into choice #1.   

Remember ... these are CHOICES you are making.  There's power in that knowledge and awareness.

OK, now if you chose #3, then this is exciting and scary and super cool and maybe not logical, but something is pulling you in this direction.  This doesn't mean that you need to quit your job and live in a van down by the water.  This means that you've identified that where you ARE, is not working for you anymore ... and it's time to explore other options.  So do that!  Consider other options and run them through this same process.

Now again, I'm going to remind you that slipping back to #1 option is possible.  In fact, it's quite likely.  This is the EASIEST of the options to choose - many people I've talked to have stayed in situations they don't like.  Let's face it, even crappy situations are ones that we are used to, we know the drill and we can anticipate the day (and sometimes we thrive on the drama of being mad).  HOWEVER, we're going to do everything we can, to avoid slipping back to that first option.  It's just not good for our health long term, you know?  

So THERE you have it.   The three options you've got and the two I'm forcing you to choose between.  When you take yourself through this process, please know:

The key here is that it doesn't need to be the "perfect" step (if you're waiting for perfect, you will never find it and therefore you will never move forward).  

It doesn't need to be the perfect step ... it just needs to be the NEXT step.

Once you've determined that ... take another one ... 

Much love,

S

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